For fun, or for victory?

So yesterday I went to see my nephews play baseball. It was a bright sunny day, yet not too hot. There was a nice cool breeze in the air. The game was already in progress and as we setup chairs you could hear the regular parents yelling at or for their kids, as well as other kids on the team. As I listened it became evident to me that even though most of these involved parents advocate the "fun vs. victory" idiology for their children playing this American past time, most if not all of these same parents become victory chanters within minutes of game start.

It is an impressive and, although confusing or the children to be sure, quick turn of expectations for the children. "Don't hesitate to run", one parent chants at the runner on third who hesitated to steal home as it seemed, and did, the catcher had retrieved a bad throw from the pitcher. Why not say something supportive like "you got it next time, good eyes on the catcher"? Let the 4 coaches on the team actually do the coaching.

Don't misunderstand me. I am all for parents being involved, even other family members, in the game and "cheering" your team on. I think the line gets blurred when they start to think they have what it takes to coach the team. Why do they suddenly decide they are the coach and umpire when watching the event? Why can't they just support their team and the members of it? I mean, they are not even keeping tabs on who wins or loses in this summer/fall baseball league as they promote "fun & learning" versus compitition. The are not setting them up for the fall of defeat or how it feels to lose a game. They are simply allowing them to have "training" before they enter true competitive leagues. Much like the exhibition games of the NFL.

So how do I feel? I think it is a good idea to have these off season fun leagues, as long as the parents help the players keep in mind that winning or losing is NOT part of these particular games....it is about learning and practicing and growing in the game and their abilities. Help them at home, take them to the park to practice, be involved instead of a parent yelling from the sidelines at their children. If you know so much, and I hope most do this, take your kid out and practice, with friends if you are unable to be physically involved. Take them to the batting cage. Ask the coaches if they can help with more practice days or ideas; although most of these guys/gals have a day job and volunteer to help your kids. FOR FREE! So work with them, be helpful, be involved, and be supportive of your kid. Remember, your there for more than the tan on game day, your kids are looking for your approval and support.

- Jim